Answer:
The principle has been stated by a number of scholars. It points to the fact that genetics and heredity has an effect. There is no doubt that genetics has an effect on the physical and psychological make-up of a person.
This is shown in the hadith where a man came to the Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ?alaihi-wasallam) and said, ''My wife has given birth to a black child. ? ( He was opposing that child as all of his ascendants were of light skin.) .
The Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ?alaihi-wasallam) told him, ''Do you own camels?? He said, '' Yes.? The Prophet (sallallaahu ?alaihi-wasallam) said, '' What colour are they? ? He said, ''Red.? The Prophet (sallallaahu ?alaihi-wasallam) asked him, ''Is there a dusky one among them ? ? He said, ''Yes.? The Prophet (sallallaahu ?alaihi-wasallam) then said , ''How has that come about ? ? The man replied , ''It is perhaps due to the strain to which it has reverted .? So the Prophet (sallallaahu ?alaihi-wasallam) told him , ''Perhaps that son of yours is due to the strain to which it is reverted. ? [1]
This is evidence that genetics does have an effect and there is no doubt about it. However, the Prophet (sallallaahu ?alaihi-wasallam) also said,
''A women is married for [any of] four reasons: for her wealth, for her lineage, for her beauty or for her religion. So try to marry one who is religious, may your hands be smeared with dust. ? [2]
Therefore, the most important matter in proposing to a women is her piety. The more religious she is and the more beautiful she is then the better she is, regardless if she be a close relative or distant [non-] relative.
The religious women will protect the man?s wealth, children, and house. Beauty fulfils his needs and lowers his gaze and he will not look to others. And Allah knows best.
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[1] Recorded by al-Bukhari and Muslim.
[2] Recorded by al-Bukhari and Muslim.
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