Answer:
When a person wishes for death because of something that has afflicted him, he is doing something that the Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alaihi-wasallam) said,
''None of you should hope for death because of some harm that has come to him. If he has wish such, he should say, ‘O Allah, give me life if You know that life is better for me. And give me death if You that death is better is better for me.’” [1]
Therefore, It is not allowed for anyone to wish for death because of some harm, hardship or difficulty that has come to him. Infact, he should be patient and expect a reward from Allah for what he is passing through. He should also wait for relief to come, as the Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alaihi-wasallam) has said,
“Know that victory comes with patience, relief with distress, and ease with hardship.” [2]
The one who is afflicted with any affliction should know that those afflictions expiate some of his sins that he has committed. No believer is afflicted with any kind of worry, grief or pain except that Allah expiates sins from him due to that, even the pricking of a thorn. When the person is patient and expects rewards from Allah, he reaches the stage of being patient. This stage is a very elevated stage. Allah has stated about its inhabitants,
''And give glad tidings to the patient. Who, when afflicted with calamity, say, ‘Truly, to Allah we belong and, truly, to Him we shall return.’” (Surah al-baqarah 155 -156)
The women in the question feels that there is no solution for her problems except death. I believe this is a mistaken view. Death does not solve any problems. Infact, the situation of adversity may get even worse. How many humans die while being afflicted with pain and problems but they had been wronging themselves and did not give up their sins and repent to Allah. Then his death is just a quicker coming of his punishment. If he remained alive, perhaps Allah would have guided him to repentance, seeking forgiveness, patience, facing the problems and expecting the relief. This all would have been good for him.
Therefore, you the questioner must be patient and expect relief from Allah. Allah says in His Book,
''So verily with hardship there is relief. Verily with the hardship there is relief.” (Surah al- Sharh 5-6)
The Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alaihi-wasallam) stated in an authentic narration,
''Know that victory comes with patience, relief with distress, and ease with hardship.” [3]
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[1] Recorded by al-Bukhari, and Muslim.
[2] According to al- Albani, it is an authentic hadith. See al- Albani Sahih al- Jami al- Sagheer, Vol. 2, p. 1151
[3] According to al- Albani, it is an authentic hadith. See al- Albani Sahih al- Jami al- Sagheer, Vol. 2, p. 1151
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