"And live with them in honour and in kindness."(Sooratun-Nisaa' 4:19)

And His - the Most Perfect - saying,

"And the wives have rights over the husbands - similar to those of the husbands over them - in that which is reasonable. But men have a degree over them." (Sooratul-Baqarah 2:228)

The Prophet (sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam) said, "Righteousness is good character." [1] And he ('alayhis-salaatu was-salaam) then said, "Do not consider any good action as insignificant- even if it is meeting your brother with a cheerful face." [2] And he (sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam) also said, "The most perfect of Believers in eemaan (faith) is the one with the best character. And the best of you are those that are best to their women-folk, and I am the best amongst you to my family." [3] There are besides these many other ahaadeeth which are a general proof for the encouragement of good character, cheerful meeting and good companionship between Muslims. If this is the general case between Muslims, then good treatment between husband and wife and relatives is even more important. You have done well in patiently persevering and bearing the ill treatment and bad character from your husband. However, I advise you to have even greater patience and not to leave the house, and if Allaah - the Most High - wills, there will be a great deal of good in this and a praiseworthy end for you. Allaah - the Most Perfect - said,

"Patiently persevere! Indeed Allaah is with those who patiently persevere." (Sooratul-Anfaal 6:46)

And His - the Mighty and Majestic - saying,

"Indeed whosoever fears Allaah, obeys Him, turns away from disobedience and patiently perseveres, then Allaah does not cause the rewards of the doers of good to be lost." (Soorah Yoosuf 12:90)

And His - the Mighty and Majestic - saying,

"Only those who patiently persevere shall receive their reward in full without reckoning." (Sooratuz-Zumar 39:10)

And His - the Most Perfect - saying,

"So patiently persevere! Indeed, the end will be good for those who are pious." (Soorah Hood 11:49)

However, this does not prevent you from speaking to your husband with such words, and behaving with him in such a manner, that will soften his heart- and lead to him being pleased with you and fulfilling your rights of companionship. And as long as he is fulfilling the main and important obligations towards you, then try not to ask him for any worldly need, until his heart is opened and his chest is expanded in accepting your request and fulfilling your needs; in this way - if Allaah wills your ending will be a praiseworthy one. May Allaah grant you increase in all that is good, and that the condition of your husband improves, and that he is guided to good character, kindness in companionship and to fulfilling the rights that are due upon him. Indeed Allaah is the best of those who are asked, and only He guides to the path that is straight. [4]

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[1] Related by Muslim (4/1980) from an-Nawwaas Ibn Samıaan (radiyallaahu 'anhu).

[2] Saheeh: Related by Ahmad (5/63) and it was authenticated by al-Albaanee in as-Saheehah (no. 1352).

[3] Hasan: Related by at-Tirmidhee (1/217-218) who said, "The hadeeth is Hasan Saheeh."

[4] al-Fataawaa (1/193-194)